The 5 Destiny
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...the life-long path of EXPERIENCE
"There is only one success: to be able to spend
your life in your own way, and not to give others
absurd maddening claims upon it."
Christopher Morley
5 is the
path of CHANGE, FREEDOM, and PHYSICAL
reality. Throughout your life, you will learn, by
trial and error, about your own physical presence on this
Earth and the effect that your presence has on other
people. The 5 destiny emphasizes your physical
body, sexual energies, and the way in which your body,
mind, and emotions are able to adapt to changing
environments. You will learn, in various and
unusual ways, that physical matter changes constantly and
that you can either prosper from these changes or
be overwhelmed by them.
Learning
about the physical is one of your main purposes for being
here. Eventually, you will experience the freedom and
relaxation that comes when your body, mind, and emotions
have equal acceptance for each other. You see, this
balance IS freedom. Do not be afraid to admit that
you really do need freedom to think, move, and feel in
the way you know is right for you.
The 5
energy enables you to change your outward appearance and
your inner attitudes to suit a great variety of
environments, contacts, and encounters. This gives you
the ability to be all things to all people and to fit in,
very naturally, to any situation. A 5 can
spend a whole lifetime wondering why his or her
personality cannot remain consistent. "Why
can't I just be myself no matter where I am or who
I'm with?" The truth is that you are
brilliantly adaptable. Your ever changing
personality is who you are. It is the result of
being yourself, being honest with your feelings, and
hoping for the same spontaneity from others. These
marvellous characteristics are what make other people feel
so relaxed in your presence, and should never be curbed
by your own or society's misconceptions about free
expression. Your adaptability is one of the
principle talents life has given you so that you can
comfortably experience more variety than most others.
5 is a
very active and unpredictable path. It is so filled
with sudden and unusual events and opportunities that you
could easily become confused by it, or afraid of
it. Consequently, you could miss out on the
abundance of experience it offers. And that, dear
5, is exactly what your life offers if you decide to take
advantage of it - an abundance of experience. But
in order to utilize this energy, you may have to reach a
deeper understanding of the word
experience.
Some 5s
are so afraid of accidents and mistakes that, instead of
flowing confidently with this unpredictable energy, they
cling to the safe and familiar with all their
might. Although they can see and feel the
excitement that is passing them by at every moment, they
are too afraid to let go, take the plunge, and see where
life takes them. Once in a while, these 5s do let
go - or the 5 current becomes so strong that they are
literally swept away into some kind of adventure - only
to miss the excitement of it all because fear has made
them believe that they were simply out of control.
Then they grab on to the first available semblance of
stability and settle there, unfulfilled, yet again.
The freedom of the 5 destiny must, therefore, start as a
feeling - the desire for freedom - which, of course, can
only come from deep inside.
Yes, the
pace of the 5 destiny can seem a little wild at times
but, like it or not, you are here to gain experience of
it. You must allow dealing with unpredictability to
become your second nature - your expertise. You can
amaze others with your resourcefulness in a crises, but
may also need to use this talent to take care of some
basic needs of your own.
Consider
the mistakes you have made in your lifetime. On the
5 path, you will find that you constantly repeat the same
old mistake over and over, even though it appears to be
in a different form each time. Refusing to let go
of what is safe and familiar,, so that you can discover
alternatives, is a large part of what causes a mistake to
be repeated. Admitting to your mistakes can be a
battle in itself. Accept that mistakes are
inevitable in your life, because that is how 5s learn new
and wonderful things.
Your
stubbornness to admit to mistakes is actually the emotion
of fear. It is natural for you to be afraid when
you do not know what you are dealing with. But you must
learn to accept fear as a natural and sometimes life
saving emotion. Until you learn to face your fears
head-on, your denial of them will keep you from expanding
or enjoying your life. Fear arises when you are not
focused on the reality that surrounds you.
Therefore, the ability to concentrate, is one of the
prime lessons to be learned on this path. Otherwise your
attention will be scattered in too many directions,
mistakes will be made but not recognized, and nothing
substantial will be achieved.
The only
way you can progress, discover new realities, and broaden
your horizons, is to allow yourself to learn what needs
to be learned when a mistake is made. Some 5s do
recognize their mistakes. They promise themselves
that they will never make that mistake again. But
they are afraid to make the changes that not repeating
the mistake requires of them. Consequently, they change
one approach with another approach which is usually just
another form of the same mistake.
Very
often, on the 5 path, a totally new direction must be
taken, which means having the courage to let go of what
has become the norm. There will be a time in your
life, or several of them, when you will have to make a
giant leap of faith for which you have had no previous
experience. By understanding and accepting that
this is the way you are meant to proceed, you will find
that both your focus and your confidence expand.
Your fear of the unknown is then replaced with an
exciting sense of adventure and the knowledge of what
must be feared and what need not be feared at all. Some
5s love the concept of adventure but, instead of enjoying
their own fast-paced and unusual episodes, there may be a
tendency to live vicariously through the exciting lives
of other people. Again, it is unaddressed fear
which is making them avoid their responsibility to live
their own lives. This approach can never bring
lasting happiness. 5 is the path of freedom.
And, yet, so many 5s tie themselves down to mundane
routines and situations in which freedom does not
exist. In order to be happy, 5s need time and space
which they can call their own. And they need to
move around without restriction. Most 5s love to
travel. If they do not actually get to travel the
world, they usually satisfy this need by fantasizing
about far off exotic places, or by allowing their minds
to wander into some very unusual scenarios. When the free
and adventurous 5 imagination is put to practical use,
however, great accomplishments usually follow.
In order
to gain the experience of life you need, you must be
totally honest with yourself about the mistakes you
always make - those things you do which never work for
you and always result in unhappiness, aloneness, and
disappointment. First you must stop repeating this
mistake. Catch yourself in the act. Take a
very different approach, the approach you should have
taken all along but were afraid to. This is how you
not only learn from a mistake, but also prosper from
it. This is when a mistake is no longer a mistake,
but experience!
This is
the way in which your life must proceed - if it
doesn't work this way, then try it another way -
until you become experienced enough to travel the 5
energy with a greater degree of self-confidence. At
this point, your life reaches calmer waters because you
are no longer struggling against the tide. Then you will
be able to see the broader horizons and the abundance of
unusual opportunity that are yours for the taking.
Many 5s
never realize that life has given them the precious gift
of freedom. Many feel alone in this world, or struggle
with unsatisfying relationships and wonder why this is
their "lot" in life. It is crucial that
you realize that you are not alone - you are not tied
down - you are free to take care of your responsibilities
in a way that will also accommodate your own needs.
The 5 path
is an unconventional one which is meant to take you far
from your birth place. So, if you feel "out of
place", know that your right place is out there in
the big world, dreaming big dreams, achieving big goals,
and embracing all that is different, unusual, unique,
exotic, and exciting. You are a citizen of the
world. As such, you must learn to let go of
prejudices and judgments, and embrace different cultures
without losing your own unique identity.
There is a
strong tendency on the 5 path to overindulge in food,
alcohol, drugs, sex, extravagance, gambling, the
limelight, and other areas where balance needs to be
maintained. Babies are often conceived at too young
an age, and marriage is often rushed into as a means of
stability. It is not unusual for 5s to
marry several times or make commitments that, eventually,
cannot be upheld. Changes of heart and mind are
frequent in the life of a 5. That is not to say that you
cannot love or be loved on a very profound level. But it
is likely that true and lasting love will be found along
with maturity. In many ways, 5s are the late-bloomers of
the numerological spectrum. But do remember that
maturity has nothing to do with age but, rather,
experience.
Remember
that your physical body is an integral part of you - the
vehicle which will transport you through this exciting
journey of yours. Your body needs to be well
maintained and lovingly nurtured. Often it is fear
of freedom that causes these overindulgences; a
subconscious rejection of freedom that creates a need to
become dependent instead. Too much focus on the
needs of others, and a lack of focus on what you desire,
causes you to deny your fear of freedom even
further. The trick here is knowing what you want,
focusing on it, and realizing that you do not - must not
- become entangled in superficial matters that are not a
part of your desired course. It is important to
have a goal and to realize that each step you take toward
it is a goal in itself.
Freedom is
your destiny and, so, you must refrain from activities
that diminish it. You must learn to pick and choose
very carefully among the many opportunities that come
your way. Seek only those activities and people
that will be of benefit to you. Learn not to waste
your time or scatter your energies in too many
directions. Learn the difference between genuine
excitement and recklessness. You will probably have many
episodes where you are footloose, fancy free, and without
a specific goal, but the frustration of moving from place
to place, from person to person, from mediocre
opportunity to mediocre opportunity, will eventually
outweigh the delight. Freedom does not mean
carelessly severing existing ties or rushing headlong
into the unknown. More often, it means freeing
yourself from your own misconceptions and mistakes so
that you can fulfil a dream that is yours.
You are
probably known for your versatility and clever
resourcefulness, but in order to feel the great
satisfaction that 5 offers, you will need to specialize
and become an expert at something you love doing.
Look to the new and progressive rather than the outdated
and conventional. You are a quick thinker, with a
real talent for analyzing and investigating, although you
do not always use this talent to further your own
interests. Your curiosity, restlessness, and
impatience can cause difficulties in staying
focused. One of the biggest mistakes 5s make is to
give up on an experience before enough time has passed to
gain the expertise needed, and then rush on to something
new which will probably be dropped in the same way.
It is impossible to truly know something if you have not
experienced it.
And what
about love? Relationship?
Marriage? Parenting? Responsibility?
Stability? Success? Prosperity? Are
these things even possible on such a self-motivated,
fast-moving path? Most definitely yes!
Freedom is the ability to do whatever you desire.
Therefore, all of these things, and
anything else you truly desire can be yours. Desire
is Love. On the 5 path, you have more chance of
finding love that is real because real love thrives in
freedom.
If your
freedom starts to take away from someone else's -
neither person can be free. Certainly, you will
have to consider your relationships carefully to allow
for your free and open 5 personality. You cannot
survive in a relationship of rules, insecurity,
dominance, or mistrust. You may have a difficult
time in understanding your "role" in a
relationship, and this creates a problem in itself.
You see, your role is simply to be who you are. When you
least expect it, you will meet another or others who will
love you simply for who you are and not for what you can
do for them. Your free lifestyle will be part of
what they love instead of an intimidating factor. These
people are not something you go out and look for.
They appear, as if by magic, when the time is right.
Your
natural desire for freedom has made you an attractive and
broad minded individual who is able to relate to people
from all walks of life. Your collection of friends
and acquaintances are certainly a diverse bunch of people
who are probably scattered all over the world.
Friendship is very important to you. There are
certain people in your life who you may rarely see on a
physical level, but your bond with them is unbreakable
because of a mutual love of freedom, and of each
other. When you are a friend, you are a friend for
life. And you possess a very special gift which
your friends are only too aware of: you have the power to
say or do something that comes from your big heart and
which will totally change another's life -
forever. While it is true that nobody can own
you, those you have touched with your special open
expression will never want to lose you or be able to
forget you.
