The 6 Destiny
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...the life-long path of BALANCE
"I love people. I love my family, my children
..... but inside myself is a place where I live all alone,
where I renew my springs that never dry up......."
Pearl S. Buck
As a child
and young adult, responsibility was always there, but you
probably rebelled against it in some way. You may
have felt overwhelmed by family or domestic
responsibilities that you were too young to handle or
take seriously. This changed as you got older, and those
who knew you in your youth may now be amazed at your
transformation into such a stable and responsible adult.
Remembering your childhood attitudes and behaviors will
help you to understand today's young people, which
is especially important if you have children of your
own. If you do not, you will find that many of the
adults in your life are, in some way, your
children.
One way or
another, parenting is a large part of what you have come
into this life to learn about. Your purpose is to
create, and to learn that creativity has many different
forms. It is not confined to the creating,
nurturing, and managing of a biological family.
Creativity comes from the outward expression of what you
are feeling inside. And, in your case, it is
through your connection to your biological and extended
family that many of your creative lessons will be
learned.
Your own
parents, and the conditions in which you were raised, are
likely to have a life-long effect on you. There may
be many difficult lessons to learn in this regard.
There can be a tendency to blame parents
disproportionately, or, to feel accountable to them right
into your adulthood, and even after they have passed
away.
It can be
difficult to distinguish love from guilt and blame.
It is important to learn that you are primarily
accountable to yourself; that family members do not own
each other, and that love thrives when it is able to flow
freely in all directions, instead of becoming
"snagged" on guilt, blame, or unmoving
traditional beliefs. You do not enjoy situations in
which your loyalty is questioned. Relativity is an
important 6 lesson which is often learned through your
associations with your relatives. Family relations
are important to you, but it is your relationship to
humanity itself, that you are here to learn
about.
Old
beliefs are discarded when you realize how irrelevant to
our changing lives they have become. Each step you
take is directly related to the last one you took and to
the next one you will take. And, as your
life's journey advances in this step-by-step
fashion, you will realize that although you are walking a
path of responsibility, you are not responsible for
everyone and everything you encounter.
You are
responsible for your own life and for those things,
situations, and people you have created. When you
are free of responsibilities that are not yours, your
capacity to both give and receive love and compassion
expands to the most beneficial and satisfying levels.
One of the
principle lessons of the 6 destiny is that of
BALANCE. Imagine yourself walking along a path
which is divided into three lanes. The middle lane
contains the energies of love, peace, belonging, and
understanding, and provides you with impressive abilities
to teach, heal, create, nurture, entertain, and solve
problems. On either side, however, are the extremes
of life. These are made up of unresolved hatred,
control, stress, conflict, cruelty, dependency, and
misunderstanding. Although you will venture into
the extreme paths from time to time, you will not be
happy there and will yearn to get back to the stability
and peace of the balanced center path. Therefore,
you must seek and focus on love, peace, belonging, and
understanding. These are the elements that will
make your journey both outwardly and inwardly
successful.
Until you
are aware of your triple path, and often after you are
aware of it, the events and circumstances of your life
can push you into extremes without your realizing
it. You may often be handed situations which cause
you to lose your balance and, inadvertently, sway toward
one extreme or another.
Of course,
anyone can walk a 3-lane path and stay centered if that
is all they have to think about. But yours is a
more arduous test. As your life proceeds, you will
amass responsibilities and circumstances which have to be
identified, sorted, evenly distributed, and juggled, so
that you can retain your balance. Many of your
responsibilities will be pleasant, but some will
not. Much of the "weight" you find
yourself carrying will turn out to be the
responsibilities of other people which have somehow
landed in your lap.
6 gives
you the power of MAGNETISM. You will attract
whatever you focus on far more easily than most
others. Of course, this can have its drawbacks.
Focus on danger, and you'll end up in dangerous
situations. Focus on nickels and dimes, and
that's all you'll have. Focus on other
people's shortcomings and you'll be surrounded
by negative behavior. Look for problems and,
believe me, you will find them. Try to focus
on the good in other people by replacing old judgments
and outdated beliefs with new and more realistic
understandings. Seek peaceful solutions to all
problems, and allow others to live their lives without
your constant input and criticism.
You are
one of life's natural entertainers. People
cannot help but be attracted to your exciting magnetic
emotional aura. This is what holds their interest
and attention. There you are, walking through life
on a high-wire, perfectly balanced, totally at ease, and
beautifully poised. Yes, of course you have a
variety of safety nets securely in place beneath
you. You are not stupid. You are
responsible for yourself. This is why you are
able to bounce right back again any time you fall.
There will
always be others to help you regain your footing in life
because once people get to know you, they enjoy watching
your clever juggling act. What a show you can put on when
you are balanced. What a brilliant display of inner
beauty you exude when your self-expectation is high and
you are judging your own steps instead of someone
else's. What a positive example you set when
you are doing what you love to do in a state of
balance. You are a superstar. Your personal
world - perhaps the whole world - is your stage.
Sometimes
we have to experience what we do not want from life in
order to find what we do want. As a 6, it is
essential that you have a clear idea of what you desire
from life - otherwise you will find yourself accumulating
unwanted responsibilities simply because you were
standing there with nothing else to do. Your sense
of duty is so strong that it can be easy to assume
responsibilities that are not yours. You may not
want to ask someone to sort out their own mess because
you may be afraid they cannot or will not do what they
are supposed to do. But while you have unfulfilled
dreams of your own, your need to volunteer must be
curbed.
In the
end, all of this makes you a very capable teacher.
You will find far more ease in your life when you use
your natural ability to teach others how to take care of
their own needs; to be responsible for their own conduct;
and that life is not a series of punishments but, rather,
a series of consequences for judgments made and actions
taken.
You cannot
remain balanced on this path while you are struggling
with other people's burdens as well as your
own. You can also lose your footing if you become
arrogant or greedy. A tendency to look for
problems can cause you to neglect your own basic needs or
to interfere in other people's lives in the mistaken
belief that you can, somehow, save them from
themselves. It is a humbling experience when a 6 is
told to "butt out" of someone else's
business, but this is likely to happen to you at least
once in your lifetime. Others resent a know-it-all,
dictatorial, and judgmental attitude. But you are
unlikely to get lost in this extreme for very long.
You need the stability of loving relationships. You
pride yourself on giving sound and practical advice, and
you can be deeply hurt when your input is ignored or
belittled. You quickly learn the arts of listening,
diplomacy, pertinence, and right timing. You learn
that peace cannot be forced.
You really
do want to understand things. You instinctively
know that it is impossible to understand something that
you have not experienced. This applies to your
relationships too. You can live a lifetime with
someone without really knowing them because a barrier
exists which prevents you from experiencing who they
really are. Or, you can experience a total stranger
and know this person immediately. The quality of
your relationships is determined by the extent to which
you let go of prejudgment and open yourself to the one-
on-one experience of the individual involved.
Which
brings us back to family. To understand is to
familiarize yourself. Surely, then, familiarization
within your own family is where this lesson begins.
Life will teach you that rules, staunchly upheld
traditions, and an inability to accept that everyone
changes as their lives unfold, retards the life-long
process of familiarization. And, as you now
familiarize yourself with your 6 destiny, you will start
to realize the huge extent to which you desire to be
familiar with so many different subjects, so many
different people, so many different aspects of
life. You came into this life to understand, and
you would dearly love to understand it all.
You are
probably known for your solid responsible approach, and
for your impressive problem-solving skills. You may
not always welcome those who look to you for answers but,
because your very nature is parental, you usually oblige
them graciously as part of the "flock" that you
must guide. But it is when you treat others not as
the children they often appear to be, but as respected
equals with whom love and pleasure is shared, or from
whom you may have something to learn, that deep and
meaningful relationships are formed.
These
experiences help to undo the misconceptions of your
childhood. They provide you with realistic
understandings of emotion and judgment, and how
people's individual energies effect each
other. Throughout your life, you will form many
relationships. Each will somehow effect the other,
and this is where your balancing skills are often
tested. Loyalty is one of your great attributes,
until you must choose between two precious
alliances. Ultimately, you learn that your
relationships are your relationships and that not
everyone in your "circle" is going to get
along.
Your
magnetism - your charisma - is what draws people to you
in the first place. This gift is developed by
exuding outwardly the desire for peace you feel
inwardly. This desire - this intent - is an energy
in itself which creates an aura around you that
subconsciously tells others that peace is your
objective. Others cannot help but respect you for
this.
By not
taking sides but, instead, showing understanding and
respect for all concerned, extreme situations can be
avoided. This is not a matter of encouraging others
to deny their true feelings when they are around
you. Nor would it serve any purpose for you to stay
neutral when your own beliefs or freedoms are being
compromised. When your power of magnetism is used
correctly, it has a calming effect which creates the
desire for peace in other people too. You have the
ability to calm even the most aggressive
individuals. When you are genuinely in this
balanced, peaceful, and non-judgmental place, you are
able to spread peace to others and create an atmosphere
of purpose, belonging, and mutual respect.
This is
why you are often thought of as the stable one, the
problem-solver, and the peace-maker. It is why you
are able to command the respect of others even though
they, themselves, may not be able to pinpoint why they
respect you so much. When your friends become your
family, they will want to help and protect you at all
times. They expect you to succeed and are not only
entertained by your successes, but are also anxious to
learn something from your example. You have
probably inspired more people than you are aware of.
There
will, of course, be times when others turn against you -
even hate you. These will be the times when you have
strayed off the path of balance. Perhaps your ego has
become inflated and you are trying to control or
manipulate things. Others may turn against you when
you are too opinionated, aggressive, bossy, interfering,
irresponsible, or when you can only see one side of the
story. Others become disappointed or even afraid of
you when you lose sight of your own loving nature.
But you usually do not stay in these dark places for long
because you are far more comfortable in a peaceful and
loving atmosphere.
You will
also encounter difficulties in relationships when your
life becomes an "act" in which you preach peace
and love while holding in - denying - your real
feelings. You must be totally honest with yourself
as to what you are feeling. You may believe that it
is impossible to love if you are feeling hate. But
the truth is that you cannot love genuinely if you do not
express outwardly any hatred you may be holding
inside. Remember that BALANCE is the secret
ingredient of a very happy and successful life for
you. It is impossible to remain balanced while
carrying the weight of unexpressed feelings.
6 is a
complex energy in which stability and validation is often
sought through the home, family, and community. It
is essential to your well-being that you possess a clear
sense of what these things mean for you, along with the
understanding that others may not always agree with
you. In order to stay balanced, an intimate sense
of belonging is needed so that not only your home becomes
the focus of your attention, but also the community in
which your home is based. You are more at ease when
there are clearly defined rules and traditions which
embrace security and enable you to play a parental role
within a larger "family". But do
not expect others to play by your rules. These are your
safety nets.
Whether
you admit it or not, and 6s often don't, you want to
be seen as a stable, responsible, and caring pillar of
the community who will volunteer to help others when
necessary. Many 6s do not believe they are governed
by tradition, conservatism, and rules until they realize
just how much they are motivated by a sense of duty and a
need to do the "right" thing. You may not
be traditional in the broad sense of the word but, within
your family and circle of close friends, there are many
traditions you do not wish to let go of.
Your home
is your castle. You are responsible for it and for
those who live there with you. You are the ruling
monarch, chief care-giver, problem-solver, stabilizer,
healer, educator, provider, and law-maker. You
expect total cooperation from those closest to you, and
you cannot understand when they do not see that
everything you do is for them. But whether at home
or at work, this attitude can cause unnecessary stress
for you and others because guilt is experienced by
everyone when you are not doing what you do for
yourself. If this occurs, you may have
overestimated your responsibilities but are denying that
you are now overwhelmed by them.
6s are
often involved in situations where justice is questioned
and analyzed, or where laws are staunchly upheld or
defiantly broken. Be careful not to develop extreme
approaches when it comes to justice and judgment, rules
and regulations, right and wrong. It is here that
many 6s meet their downfall. In order to remain balanced,
you will have to take a center position and assess the
relativity of all factors. This is what the scales
of justice were always meant to signify, proving that no
law can be absolute.
When you
enforce your rules on other people, you lose your balance
anyway because you become dependent on their
cooperation. Eventually, when they break free of
your control, you realize how just unstable you have
become. Then, your fear of losing your grip can produce
dictatorial and tyrannical behavior in one extreme or, in
the other extreme, a fearful and pessimistic approach
creates an emotional paralysis which prevents you from
creating the life you desire. In turn, this causes
you to constantly seek the advice of so called experts,
who may be even less informed than you, to tell you how
to live.
The
mistakes that others make are an important part of their
learning process. As difficult as it may seem, especially
if children are involved, it is not your responsibility
to prevent them from making mistakes. Your
marvelous teaching skills can provide the right level of
protection. You are here to learn about and exemplify
balance. It is from this standpoint that your true
purpose can be fulfilled. Yes, home, family, and
community have much to do with your aspirations. It
is from these experiences that you will recognize that
the world is also your home and that everyone on Earth is
your family. It is only in a state of balance that
humanity's love can flow freely, and it is only in
balance that humanity can survive.
You were
born with judgmental tendencies for the purpose of
learning how inaccurate judgment can be. You were
born to experience control over others so that you can
learn of its futility. You were born to take on
responsibility so that you can learn about freedom and
that it is not freedom from responsibility that you want
but, rather, the freedom to take care of your
responsibilities with ease. You were born
with the gift of magnetism in order to attract others to
your subtly entertaining example. You were born to
create, so that you can understand life's creative
process and teach those understandings to others.
You were born to make peace, so that life can
continue. Oh what a spectacular mission yours is!
Yes, 6 can
be a confusing path to walk at times; a path of changing
realities, duties, and loyalties. But it can also
be the most beautiful journey of all if your intent is to
protect and beautify life. Remember that intent is
such an awesome power. It is the fuel that drives
you through life, and the gauge that sets your
direction. No matter how many wars or
misunderstandings you encounter, or even partake in, if
your firm intent is for peace and understanding, the
necessary lessons will be learned and the 6 destiny will
take you wherever you want to go. 6 is the path of
LOVE. It contains far more reward than you
may have judged it to have.
